Domestic Violence and Abuse
Domestic abuse is where someone close to you (usually your spouse, partner, boyfriend/girlfriend or ex) behaves in a way towards you which is damaging. “Abuse” or “violence” can be more than physical violence – it might be physical, mental, emotional, psychological, sexual, or even financial.
It’s estimated that one in four women will experience domestic abuse at some point in her life – this is a terrible statistic, but does show that if you are experiencing domestic abuse you are not alone. And men also experience domestic abuse.
If you are experiencing, or have experienced, any of the following behaviours – please, please, speak to someone. This might be a friend, Rosie Hillas (SU Community Officer), your personal tutor or one of the organisations we list below. The important thing is that someone knows what you are going through.
- physical attacks, such as slapping/punching, pulling hair, strangling or using weapons
- intimidation, such as throwing and breaking things
- humiliation, name calling or constant criticism
- imposing unreasonable rules, curfews or ultimatums
- controlling what you wear, who you see or how you look
- threatening you or those close to you (including friends, children or even pets)
- forcing you to take part in sexual acts you don’t like or don’t feel comfortable with
- depriving you of financial independence
What to do
Tell someone! Abusers thrive on isolating their victims: just by making someone aware of what is happening to you, you take away some of their power. Your SU Community Officer or someone from the Helpzone can listen to you in an impartial way and help you to weigh up your options. We can also support you if your studies are suffering as a result of the abuse.
As ever, if you think you might be in danger or need emergency assistance, call 999.
People Who Can Help
The University Counselling Service firstname.lastname@example.org 01242 714542
The University HelpZone 01242 714444
National Domestic Violence Helpline (0808 2000 247).
National Centre for Domestic Abuse (0844 8044 999).
Men's Advice Line (0808 801 0327)
The Police non-emergency number: 101
Mankind (Male Victims only): 01823 334244